How we decided to adopt a baby

I realize that I should have made this one of my first posts but better late than never. Many people ask us how we decided to adopt a baby. The answer is not simple but here it goes. Dave and I got married 10/10/98. One year later I went off the pill and tried to get pregnant. I found out Easter 2000 that I was pregnant. A couple weeks later we found out I was carrying twins. At that moment and for almost 3 years later we thought that our family was complete.

As the boys approached their third birthday I realized I wanted another baby. Dave on the other hand did not. We went on like this for about 4 months and again I went off the pill. Each month I prayed that I would get pregnant and each month I was not. There were a few months I thought I was so those were very hard for me. We then went to a fertility specialist who put me on Clomid. I thought that I would be pregnant that first month. We tried 3 rounds of that and decided that we didn't want to go into any more "extreme" fertility treatments. I still was consumed with wanting another baby.

Dave looked at me and said "Why don't we look into adoption?" We talked about it before so why not?". I hit the ground running..I started researching agencies and programs and within a week we attended our first adoption seminar. We left there with an adoption application packet. In the car I was talking a mile a minute about the seminar and finally I looked at Dave and asked him what he thought. I did not want to get my hopes up for him to decide adoption wasn't for us. He looked at me and said "nothing would be more honorable than to give a child a loving home who wouldn't be able to have one without us." I melted instantly. This was the man that I had fallen in love with 8 years ago telling me that yes adoption was definitely the way to expand our family. We quickly decided on adopting a baby girl from China. We then finally picked the right agency.

Throughout this journey I have thought about the words from a song by Garth Brooks called "Unanswered Prayers" Part of the chorus goes "Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers. Remember when your talkin to the man upstairs that just because he doesn't answer doesn't mean he don't care. Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers." I firmly believe that God didn't answer my prayer to become pregnant because my daughter would be born miles away in another country. I now pray that God will take care of her while she is in utero and until someone finds her and then until I am able to travel across the world to bring her home.